To have a son

R.D. Boucher
1 min readApr 19, 2022

I can’t wait to have a son

so I can teach him how to be a man

who can make a house a home

and transform a meal into a dinner.

A man who knows how to act

in the presence of a woman,

that won’t lay a hand

when words do not swing in his favor, nor

forget that dressing up doesn’t always mean

dressing down

respect comes from respecting others,

not asserting your authority

aggression is acceptable

only when one aggresses you,

it is not to show your power

over women or men you don’t choose.

In this world, this means so many things

it means allowing a woman

to be whatever she wants to be,

and not expecting her to go down on her knees

just because you want her to,

or the conscious exchange of sex

so she feels that she is deserving of your love

To be a man means to realize

that being a man makes you no different than a woman,

you just have a penis when there is meant to be a vagina.



R.D. Boucher

Dami grew up in Hillside, NJ and attended Rutgers University in New Brunswick, NJ. She is currently working on her PhD in Santa Cruz, CA.